Victorious Women I was born and raised in Rhode Island. I am the middle child of three. When I was seven, my father was shot and killed. As an adult looking back, I couldn’t handle its emotional impact. It introduced me to an overwhelming pain that subconsciously shaped my life.

There was no one there to help me understand my emotions, but you’d better believe the pain was real. So what did I do?I wanted to save the world from pain, so I placed myself in harm’s way. Perhaps that’s why I love capes—Lady Super Pain here to save your day. It all came to a screeching halt after I nearly died twice trying to rescue a pack of ingrates that I now thank. I saw clearer than clear that I AM NOT THE SACRIFICIAL LAMB.

My life’s lessons are my strengths, but looking back I wondered: Who? What? When? Where? How? and Why?

Through writing, I heal. Post-traumatic trauma must be embraced, and then, and, only then, will you be able to move from Victim street to a Victorious place. Let’s talk about being a victim. There is no shame in being a victim. We are all victims at one time or another.

Would you rather be a predator? I finally got sick and tired of being sick and tired of abuse that I moved from Victim Street to Victorious Place, and I pray that part of my life is dead. I think people make changes when things not only hurt, but hurt enough. I feel I’ve done enough time. Really!   We’ve got to know when we’re in the red zone–harm’s way, folks.  I face many challenges everyday, but I jumped anyway to save my life.

I survived. I stand. I stand with insight and pride. I am so thankful that my life’s hardships awakened me, and that’s what I call epiphanies.

Some folks would like to know my educational background. I have a little schooling–but what is better than life experiences? After all, there is always some one better, prettier, and smarter, but, of course, writers write.

I am an Independent Book Reviewer. I love dogs, especially Poodles. Plants are awesome too, and I absolutely love Volkswagen Beetles. If you want to know more, I invite you to read my writings.

Don’t you want to experience positive, life-changing epiphanies that will help you? Don’t get it twisted. Other people will learn too–especially when you move.

Writing to heal is real—from me to you!

Thank you very much.

Book Reviews

F.I.E.R.C.E Mothers | Create the Life of Your Dreams and Crush Your Goals by Ugochi Onyewu uplifts women by sharing the framework or the template she uses to write this book and to organize her life. Since the title is an acronym, we need to understand each letter. F stands for first things first. I represents I am. E signifies your engine. Rrepresents relationships. C is for chief financial officer, and the final E is for execution—F.I.E.R.C.E

Each letter has a set of soul-searching questions. Answer the questions honestly without putting yourself down. This defeats the purpose. Since the goal is to find your purpose, your answers to each set of questions will help you determine your direction. Whether you’re a working mom or a stay-at-home mom, this is a win-win method.         

Ugochi’s framework requires time management and financial management with a definite focus–which requires accepting the power of your mind. This author believes in God and gives Him all glory for her accomplishments. However, you don’t have to share her beliefs to benefit from this book.

F.I.E.R.C.E Mothers want to live in their own truth. You can be a wife, a mother, and still have your own life. Therefore, at the end of the day, you are not unhappy because you have served everyone but you. If you want to be all that you can be without losing yourself, the framework in this book may be a jump start for you.

This author also acknowledges that she has a tribe of positive friends who are willing to help her reach her goals. This is a very legitimate point. Nobody accomplishes anything alone.  

Ugochi seems like a superwoman, but she is an organized woman. She schedules everything, but there is room for the unexpected. She is able to accomplish her goals by staying on task. She successfully serves other people, but she does not leave herself out of her own life. This is good for all mothers who want to live a purposeful life.

F.I.E.R.C.E. Mothers work toward accomplishing their happiness. Women can be successful mothers, awesome wives, and experience a fulfilling life. This book offers insight that may change your view about how you want to live your life. It has 241 pages. What do you have to lose?


Vivian Dixon Sober